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Transdr is an open-ended dating app with more than enough gender and sexuality options to accommodate a rainbow of singles in the LGBTQ+ population. This trans dating app offers swiping without transphobic discrimination, and it works for MTF singles and FTM singles interested in striking up a conversation and meeting up right away. Dating a Transgender Person: How is it Different? Dating a transgender person is just like dating anyone else. No, seriously. Really. I promise. As someone who has dated my fair share of trans people, I can be honest and say that the gist of things are essentially the same as with a non-trans person. trans transgender ftm mtf dating trans love transisbeautiful nonbinary genderqueer genderfluid genderflux agender bigender trigender demiboy demigirl androgynous neutrois me lgbtq gay lesbian bisexual asexual pansexual queer pride. 856 notes. Reblog. Transgender dating and TS relationships have never been easier. Meet Trans Women and the men that love them on the best trans dating website and app in the world! TSmatch. Search Dashboard. Login. Register. 3936 Trans Members. 3936 Trans Members. Sort: Online. Newest Distance Online. Filter. Active Filters. Sort: Online. MTF Dating is part of the dating network, which includes many other general and transsexual dating sites. As a member of MTF Dating, your profile will automatically be shown on related transsexual dating sites or to related users in the network at no additional charge. For more information on how this works, click here. If you are dating a transgender person, you are dating someone who has to deal with more stress than other people. This means that you will also experience extra stress. Take care of yourself! Get therapy if you can. Stay in touch with friends and family who support you. Remember, taking care of yourself is your first responsibility.

Actual Lesbians!

2009.11.13 23:01 Actual Lesbians!

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named actuallesbians because lesbians is not really for or by lesbians--it was meant to be a joke. We're not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!
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2013.04.25 00:14 litui Men wearing nail polish

A subreddit for men (including cis male, male-identifying, trans men, etc.) to share stories, post photos of their polished nails, and discuss anything related to nail polish or its relation/correlation to gender expression. Those for whom the wearing of polish may also pose challenges (genderqueer, genderfluid, androgyne, trans women, etc.) are likewise welcome.
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2017.12.29 02:25 PM_PAINTED_GUY_TOES Male Crossdressers & Femguys Who Happen to Like Women

SFW. A "male lesbian" supposedly is a boy, man or male person who enjoys "crossdressing" and is attracted to women. This oxymoron term is most known from Eddie Izzard. Here you can find media of couples, advice, male makeovers, drag tutorials and other resources. Note: despite the sub's name implications, Bi and Asexual folks are equally welcome! ♥ Not supposed to be confused or conflated with a real lesbian identity nor transsexual (MTF) identity. ML is not an ID label, ignore the name please.
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2020.10.21 07:24 roguewavesurfin tips on writing a trans female character?

i'm a ftm mangaka working on a romcom yuri manga about two girls in a string quartet who date, get married, have a kid, the whole kitten kaboodle. one of them is trans. i know some stuff about trans issues, being trans myself, but the world of trans women is one i only know so much about, and i wanna get in this girl's head properly when writing her. i've been doing a lot of research and asking around various subreddits about how to write this, that, or the other, so if these kinds of posts bother you, if it's any consolation, you ladies aren't the only subreddit i've been annoying.
first, putting this out there: this manga is not hentai or anything that might get THOSE tags on it on scanlation sites, you know the ones. sultry scenes do happen, but they're not pornographic, more akin to something you'd find on an hbo show.
also, if you don't wanna discuss anything that'd trigger bottom dysphoria that is fine, as i'm not here to ask about genitalia. i've asked a few trans women about that issue and writing it thoughtfully. if you feel i should know something really important about it, you can tell me, but you don't have to.
what are some little mtf problems i can slot in small scenes that'd get mtf readers going, "haha, that is so true. i do that." i've heard trans girls on hormones favor pickles and other salty foods, so i'm imagining this scene where she's sad about her father and her love interest buys her like 10 jars of pickles and the trans girl's like, "there is no way i can eat all these," and love interest goes, "yes you can. i know you." and trans girl bursts into tears and they get heart-to-heart. stuff like that.
also worth noting she is 19 and two years on hormones and has done a bit of voice training (she majors in music, and some colleges require voice courses for musicians, it helps with soflege). what are reasonable benchmarks she'd hit in those areas in that time at that age? i know YMMV, i just wanna avoid her being like "there is no way a trans girl has this much after only 2 years" or on the other side "she's only this far? damn, her doctor's doing her dirty."
oh, also she did date a girl before her love interest entered the picture. they broke up. i initially thought to have their breakup be amicable, but idk maybe i could slot trans issues in that one? everyone loves a good old return of the evil ex story arc. and i've had no chances to date anyone since coming out let alone break up 😂
one last thing: she can hear thoughts. pretty sure that'd badly impact her dysphoria. i know 100% ppl think i'm a girl and clock about my feminine looks in their heads. can't hate them for it (i know what i look like), and she probably doesn't either, but maybe she did when she was younger.
thank you for your time and input! if you have any questions about the character or comic that'd help you help me lmk
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2020.10.21 06:21 roguewavesurfin tips for writing a trans female character?

i'm a ftm mangaka working on a romcom yuri manga about two girls in a string quartet who date, get married, have a kid, the whole kitten kaboodle. one of them is trans. i know some stuff about trans issues, being trans myself, but the world of trans women is one i only know so much about, and i wanna get in this girl's head properly when writing her. i've been doing a lot of research and asking around various subreddits about how to write this, that, or the other, so if these kinds of posts bother you, if it's any consolation, you ladies aren't the only subreddit i've been annoying.
first, putting this out there: this manga is not hentai or anything that might get THOSE tags on it on scanlation sites, you know the ones. sultry scenes do happen, but they're not pornographic, more akin to something you'd find on an hbo show.
also, if you don't wanna discuss anything that'd trigger bottom dysphoria that is fine, as i'm not here to ask about genitalia. i've asked a few trans women about that issue and writing it thoughtfully. if you feel i should know something really important about it, you can tell me, but you don't have to.
what are some little mtf problems i can slot in small scenes that'd get mtf readers going, "haha, that is so true. i do that." i've heard trans girls on hormones favor pickles and other salty foods, so i'm imagining this scene where she's sad about her father and her love interest buys her like 10 jars of pickles and the trans girl's like, "there is no way i can eat all these," and love interest goes, "yes you can. i know you." and trans girl bursts into tears and they get heart-to-heart. stuff like that.
also worth noting she is 19 and two years on hormones and has done a bit of voice training (she majors in music, and some colleges require voice courses for musicians, it helps with soflege). what are reasonable benchmarks she'd hit in those areas in that time at that age? i know YMMV, i just wanna avoid her being like "there is no way a trans girl has this much after only 2 years" or on the other side "she's only this far? damn, her doctor's doing her dirty."
oh, also she did date a girl before her love interest entered the picture. they broke up. i initially thought to have their breakup be amicable, but idk maybe i could slot trans issues in that one? everyone loves a good old return of the evil ex story arc. and i've had no chances to date anyone since coming out let alone break up 😂
one last thing: she can hear thoughts. pretty sure that'd badly impact her dysphoria. i know 100% ppl think i'm a girl and clock about my feminine looks in their heads. can't hate them for it (i know what i look like), and she probably doesn't either, but maybe she did when she was younger.
thank you for your time and input! if you have any questions about the character or comic that'd help you help me lmk
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2020.10.21 05:22 nympathetic i don’t want sex.

My girlfriend (mtf) and I (f) have been together for almost a year now. Definitely the longest relationship i’ve ever had. I always struggled with sexual stuff with previous partners. My ex would play with me, but i never really enjoyed it, and I never gave him anything back. My current gf and I have had sex before. It was fine, I didn’t mind it. But, it took me a while to open up sexually and engage in it with her. It took me like 4 months of dating to get down on her and suck her off. So this isn’t an issue with her, It’s always been an issue with me. Lately, she’s been upset. She understands that I don’t really have much interest in it, but she wants to find a way to have sex with me. I told her, out of frustration, that I’m not forcing myself to have sex with her. Our relationship is almost perfect. Everything. Except this stupid sex issue. She values the intimacy and she craves it. She really wants that intimacy with me. I understand it, I do. I just don’t view sex the way she does. I’ve never really orgasmed, and sex is boring to me. I have a hard time getting off. My gf takes estrogen, so it takes a little longer for her to get off. She likes oral from me, but i don’t enjoy it very much. I offer a hand job, but she gets upset since I won’t do what she wants. We both have very open communications with our issues. We always resolve arguments or disagreements within the hour. But this sex issue is constant. She brings it up every night, and I feel terrible. I try my hardest to express that it has nothing to do with her, and I tell her that I wish there was an alternative. We cannot think of anything to please both of us. It’s upsetting because she means the world to me. I love her to pieces. This relationship is perfect, except for this one issue. It feels like a chore, I’m in college and I just recently got a job. I’m too tired at night to do anything, and I just don’t have interest. i don’t really get horny any more, and I just don’t feel like having sex. It’s nothing against her. I think my clit is just broken lmao.
Anyway, I’m just looking for input. Suggestions. Ideas. ANYTHING that can help us. She agreed that I can post this, she wants to work this out as well. The only idea we have is a sex therapist. but it’s so expensive. i love this girl. so much. but i’m starting to get frustrated with this sex talk every single day.
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2020.10.21 04:52 nympathetic I don’t have interest in sex (help us)

My girlfriend (mtf) and I (f) have been together for almost a year now. Definitely the longest relationship i’ve ever had. I always struggled with sexual stuff with previous partners. My ex would play with me, but i never really enjoyed it, and I never gave him anything back. My current gf and I have had sex before. It was fine, I didn’t mind it. But, it took me a while to open up sexually and engage in it with her. It took me like 4 months of dating to get down on her and suck her off. So this isn’t an issue with her, It’s always been an issue with me. Lately, she’s been upset. She understands that I don’t really have much interest in it, but she wants to find a way to have sex with me. I told her, out of frustration, that I’m not forcing myself to have sex with her. Our relationship is almost perfect. Everything. Except this stupid sex issue. She values the intimacy and she craves it. She really wants that intimacy with me. I understand it, I do. I just don’t view sex the way she does. I’ve never really orgasmed, and sex is boring to me. I have a hard time getting off. My gf takes estrogen, so it takes a little longer for her to get off. She likes oral from me, but i don’t enjoy it very much. I offer a hand job, but she gets upset since I won’t do what she wants. We both have very open communications with our issues. We always resolve arguments or disagreements within the hour. But this sex issue is constant. She brings it up every night, and I feel terrible. I try my hardest to express that it has nothing to do with her, and I tell her that I wish there was an alternative. We cannot think of anything to please both of us. It’s upsetting because she means the world to me. I love her to pieces. This relationship is perfect, except for this one issue. It feels like a chore, I’m in college and I just recently got a job. I’m too tired at night to do anything, and I just don’t have interest. i don’t really get horny any more, and I just don’t feel like having sex. It’s nothing against her. I think my clit is just broken lmao.
Anyway, I’m just looking for input. Suggestions. Ideas. ANYTHING that can help us. She agreed that I can post this, she wants to work this out as well. The only idea we have is a sex therapist. help??
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2020.10.20 12:26 nicanh Long Distance During Girlfriend's (MTF) transition + Grief + Betrayal

This is a long one so bear with me.
I am 25 cis F and my partner is 24 MTF. We have been together for 6 years. We have been distance for 2 years, as I completed my masters in a separate state, graduated with my masters in June, and then moved to a different separate state for a job that same month.
This year has been very hard so far, especially with covid happening. I didn’t get to say goodbye to any of my friends from grad school, didn’t get to have my final placement in a specialized area (which means my career will take longer now), and more. I did get a job right out of school and am making decent money, which I am grateful for, but I am alone with no friends, no family, and no socializing here. What’s been getting me through all of this is knowing that after this year, I would likely move back to the city of my partner and we would probably get engaged shortly after we move in together next year.
In July, my partner came out to me. I am so happy for them and proud and supportive and want to celebrate this with them.
I want to stress that I am not trying to make this situation about me, but there are some things that my partner did in this process that were very hurtful to me. I am trying to work through these issues so I can be supportive and the best possible partner to them during this time, but while this is about them, this does also affect me and our relationship.
My partner came out to me over text. I understand that we are long distance and that coming out in person would change the timeline and might have been too long to wait, however they told me over text while they were also gaming at the same time because they said they needed a “distraction” while they told me. They also were never outright and kept tiptoing around the subject until I finally outright asked, “are you saying you’re a trans woman?” and then they confirmed.
They also only decided to tell me because I was coming to visit and they were afraid I would find the estrogen pills that they had already picked up. This was also hurtful because they did not tell me because they want to, but because they were afraid I would find out by accident. So they told me over text the day before their family member’s wedding, right before I would be driving hours to get there and then would have to act entirely normal around their family, who had not been told yet.
I then found out that our mutual friends (who live in the same city as my partner) had known for over a month before I was told. I understand that I am physically not there and I understand the fear they must have had about me leaving or not accepting them, however it hurts very much that as their partner of six years, not only did they not come to me first, but they told SEVERAL other people before they told me, and that these friends knew the whole time while I was left in the dark. It made me feel like a fool.
It is so hurtful to me that I am not the first person they told. I could live with being the second person, maybe, but the fact that MULTIPLE people knew before me just hurts. I understand why my partner did it, but I don’t think that makes it okay. They don’t understand how they did anything wrong but are mad that it upsets me. Whenever I bring it up, they start crying and I end up comforting them. Whenever I try to talk about my feelings or the things they have done to hurt me, I end up having to comfort them and have never been able to talk about how I feel in this or receive any sort of acknowledgement from them about what they did.
I truly want to be supportive and am so accepting of their transition, but I feel so left out. I missed so many things in the month that everyone but me knew about this such as painting their nails, and later my partner had started dressing as a woman, and doing all of those “firsts” with their friends instead of with me. I know that it is not about me, but I wish I had been there for those firsts and had been a part of this journey with them. I asked if I could even be included with a text before doing something like “I am about to wear this new shirt and am so excited!” but my partner doesn’t even do that and only tells me about things like that after the fact. This seems like something that would be so easy for them to do but they are not even able to agree to sending a single text when it would make me feel so much better and more included.
I was so excited because I was supposed to visit them this week. We had planned on doing couples counseling with their therapist to discuss some of these things and I was also going to be there for a wig consultation that we both had been looking forward to. Unfortunately, I was exposed to covid and could no longer visit for the week. I asked them if they could look into rescheduling the wig consultation because I really wanted to be there with them for this “first” and to be able to support them and be by their side, but this caused another fight.
I have never made them wait on anything or asked them to slow down their transition - I understand this is an exciting time for them and want them to feel free and confident and enjoy themselves now that they are able to do all the things they’ve wanted to for so long. I didn’t ask them to wait on taking hormones - they only got one sperm sample in (they were supposed to get more but dragged their feet for too long, but that is another story) - which means that now we may not be able to have kids which is something that is very important to me and I told them when we started dating. I was not able to tell any friends or family for months after they told me, so I only had my therapist as support for months while I tried to process my feelings and figure out how I felt and with the big changes and the grieving that comes with a partner transitioning. It was a very lonely time.
We had originally talked about making sure we were both on the same page when they decided to come out to the world, because them coming out would also “out” me in a way and I would have to explain a lot of things to a lot of people and to my family. They had told me they were going to wait a while, but then on National Coming Out Day, they decided the night before that they were actually going to come out that day instead and didn’t really talk it over with me or check if that was okay with me in the sense that it would out me (again, I understand this isn’t about me but it hurt that we had agreed to talk about it first and then they just decided without discussing it without me at all when it would obviously greatly affect me as well).
This has all been really hard because I’ve gone through the past six years planning for OUR life together and I feel like they don’t care about that anymore and are only focusing on themselves. I understand that transitioning is a bit of a selfish process and I am totally okay with that! This is about them and this is their time to focus on themselves and be selfish. However, we are still in a relationship and I feel that if they want us to stay together then they need to be including me on things and considering my feelings a bit more.
I’m not sure what advice exactly I am asking for. I mostly am looking for support and for outside perspectives on the situation as my partner seems to think I am asking too much from them and am being unfair. My family thinks I am putting my partner’s needs too far ahead of my own and am neglecting myself. I am so overwhelmed and confused about everything right now and not sure where to turn.
TLDR: I’m trying to support my partner’s transition but they did some very hurtful and inconsiderate things in the process and I am struggling with that. My partner thinks I am asking too much but my parents think I am neglecting my own feelings and issues to support my partner and put their feelings first.
Edited for tone, I probably shouldn't have written the original post at 4am while crying - apologies.
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2020.10.20 00:05 Umbilical-cunt Idk where else to post this so I guess it’s going here

So for some context I’m trans mtf and I have a friend who is trans ftm. We’ll call him dude.
Also warning this is mildly political but I need to rant/ask for advice bc idk if I should say anything to him.
For the most part dude is pretty chill. He’s a bit short tempered and doesn’t really think before he says shit but other than that he’s a good guy.
Now we haven’t spoken in a bit bc of a small argument but that’s not the issue. We’ve had bigger arguments and have gone longer without talking. He’s not doing great mentally so I can’t always blame him.
The issue starts with his Instagram story. Usually he posts typical emo stuff he’s into or trans related things which I’m fine with. But today there was something a bit different. Idk what the post was but he left a comment saying “men are disgusting” and is now complaining that it got removed for breaking guidelines. He’s saying “I said what I said and I’d say it again if I could”
And I’m just like wtf?
I know there’ll be people on here who thinks what he said was fine but not me. Idc who it is saying that all (blank) are disgusting is fucked up and gross no matter who it’s about. I’d be just as pissed if he said “women are disgusting” or anything like that.
What’s even worse is that he constantly posts about mental health and, whilst I know people might not immediately realise it, saying things like that can have an effect on people. Not just men.
Imagine knowing seeing that and knowing people will hate you just because of how you were born. And as I said it doesn’t just effect men. I mention at the start of the post that I’m trans mtf, so biologically I’m male, but I’m still not out to most people. It’s hard to describe but it makes me feel horrible knowing that, regardless of whether I’m out or still in the closet, people will hate me and judge me for how I was born.
I just don’t see how he thinks that’s ok, especially when he’d lose his shit if someone said something “women are disgusting” or “trans people are disgusting” which, as I already said, is just as bad.
So that’s my rant. I probably missed out some things because I didn’t really plan this out.
Any advice? I wanna speak to him about it and hope he’ll understand but he’s my friend and I don’t wanna fuck that up. But this shit hurts people and hurts me, especially when it’s my friend saying it.
Do y’all think I should talk to him about it?
Edit: I said this in a comment but I wanna make sure people see it. His gf says a lot of things like that and I’m suspicious he’s getting it from her. If true I’ve been in a similar situation with an ex. The type who’ll put ideas into your head that make you hate yourself. Intentional or not I know it feels horrible to be dating someone like that. And I know he’s been getting worse lately. I don’t know it’s her fault for certain tho
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2020.10.19 19:07 theErinyes3 i just want someone to want me

i have friends from high school that i still hang out with online pretty often, but other than that i haven’t met a single person that will text me just because. if i want to talk to these people, i have to put in the initiative. coworkers, women on tinder, acquaintances from the gym, anywhere. some of these friends i’ve drifted apart from because after i realized that it’s always on me, i just kinda stopped texting them, and they haven’t texted me. i just want someone to want to talk to me. i get so excited whenever my phone goes off and it’s always just my mom telling me she’s going to bed or something. i’d hoped things might be different when i started trying to date lesbian women (i’m trans, mtf) but it’s just more of the same. so here i am just super into this girl and we always have amazing conversations when we do talk but if i want to talk to her i have to open it up. sometimes i resist texting her for most of a day just to see if she’ll make an effort but i always cave and text her because she won’t. i am just tired of always having to do the chasing. is it so wrong for a girl to just want to be chased for once? i haven’t gotten out of bed all day and idk if i will. i certainly won’t have any plans cause i don’t plan on hitting anyone up.
sorry to rant i know that’s why this sub is here but i just feel so shitty burdening everyone with my bullshit but i just needed to get it out ugh
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2020.10.19 12:17 FatCockSlutUK 22/19 [FM4A] looking for a third person for a threesome.

Looking for a third person (could be male, female or trans.) to join me and my wife in the bedroom for some no strings attached fun. Important info: Date range 17-27th of December 2020 Location: around Surrey and London. Male information: Height - 5 Foot 11, Length - 6.5 Inches, Age: 19, Interests: Getting fisting, being rimmed, having my face sat on, giving anal, facefucking etc. Female information: Height - 5 Foot, Cup Size - 32B, Age: 22, Interests: pegging, facesitting, receiving anal, teasing/edging, being facefucked, choking and double penetration. Requirements: We prefer bareback and cumplay so you must be tested for any STD/STIs, if you are MTF trans or Male we would prefer a larger cock (6+ plus inches), you must have good hygiene, if you want anything doing to your asshole then please make sure it is shaved, require people who are Bi so all of us can have fun together, prefer older women who have some experience but not necessary. More pictures of us are available on our page. Feel free to DM me so I can get the ball rolling.
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2020.10.19 06:43 DocJHHolliday I need relationship advice

I’m a trans girl (mtf) 17 and I’m dating a trans guy (ftm) 17 and am wondering how to support him while I’m dysphoric and can’t transition due to parents and he can’t really transition do to parents either. how do we help each other through this stuff when we’re both depressed and dysphoric?
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2020.10.19 05:25 Witchy-Princess Date night

My girlfriend (both of us are MTF) and I have a date via zoom ever Saturday and some Wednesday’s. This week we had to move Saturday night to Sunday night. I’m in a tiny depressing little town and our long distance dates are all that get me through life here. I’m driving to her (13 hours) for this Halloween weekend and I’m so excited I’m going to explode! My life is becoming something beautiful for once and having her be a part of it makes it even better. I’m happy. It’s great but odd when you’ve never had it consistently. I get lost when I stare into her eyes.
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2020.10.18 21:52 dummbichalt Need advice! Coming out as poly to mono partner

For context: I'm 22 mtf in a long term relationship with 22 f. We've been together for two years and both see us spending MUCH longer together. I love her so so much, and I love her more everyday. Yet I still feel the need for a second partner.
Backstory: we have discussed polyamory before. This was months ago, before I was on HRT and knowing I myself may be poly. She expressed having no interest in a polycule of any sort, but would be interested in non-monogamy from a kink point of view. I agreed at the time, but also mentioned I'd like to experience what it's like to date a man. That made her uncomfortable, but she said she would be ok with it later on.
More recently, like last week, I have found myself becoming more attracted to men. Not only this, but I've developed a small crush on a man. I've had crushes on other people while in relationships in the past, but I always chalked it up to being an unfaithful piece of shit and just tried to ignore it. But now I'm thinking polyamory is a part of my sexual identity. I don't view it as a kink, but more so as a type of orientation. I'd like to bring it to her attention, but I'm not sure how she will react. We communicate very well, but she has explicitly stated that she is monogamous. I don't really know where to go from here. Does anyone have any advice or experiences of their own they'd like to share? Ideally, I'd like a situation where I'm still with my partner, but also having another partner. I'm not seeing it as a triad or polycule, but two different relationships at the same time. Thank you all for your time!
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2020.10.18 21:15 4y4cchi How can I explain to ignorant people that trans people aren't planing to rape anyone?

I am a cis f married to mtf (pre everything but we finally have a date to start the process!!) And I keep hearing ignorant people keep saying that it "easy" for a sexual predators to simply pretend to be woman to harm others just because.
As true crime fan, I can assure anyone who wonders - sex offenders don't need to dress up if they plan to hurt someone, they don't care about the law, they will get or try to get a victim without putting effort in to what they wear or where they strick (most cases). Farther more, I have never in my life seen or heard a case of someone pretending to be trans to just hurt or rape people. I usually do not bother with trasnphobs or bigots at all. however, there are two sadly ignorant coworkers of mine who are pro trans but think they need to be excluded from public bathrooms because of the imaginary potentially rapist in a "trans" clothings.
I tried to explain to them how this nonsense isn't even a possibility and that trans people just wish to live their lives peacefully and pee in public bathroom like every other person. But for some reason, despit logic and knowledge I was unable to convince them it's impossible. At some point I said "cool so just ban all man from public areas if you want to attened to this rapist problem of the world". They agreed (ther are men 🤦‍♀️)
I also want to make sure I'm not being misunderstood: I'm pro trans right, I believe each and everyone of you is valid and I do want to try and make this world better and fair for you, even if it's just bit by bit. I meant no harm with my words.
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2020.10.18 20:33 Eliora__ Feeling lonely

Hey,
I'm 20 / MTF, starting HRT next week, and i wanted to ask if someone knows a good dating app for trans people, or something like that. I feel really lonely and i'd like to meet some people (in real life). I also live in France, if it can help. Thanks.
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2020.10.18 11:49 Teeks2353 Dating like as a trans mtf like?

I’m a young trans women who is sadly only into men growing up as a teen I couldn’t bear the thought of trying to date. As I wasn’t happy with myself but it’s completely changed I am the love of my own life and I genuinely feel ready to hit the dating world but just wanted to see if any girls had tips/advice?
This hasn’t and will never consume me wanting a partner as I’m content with being single but yeah, I’d love to hear what others have to say n think.
Lots of love thanks
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2020.10.17 22:59 neondemonx Recently single in locked down LA. Excited to try dating again when the world reopens. (40’s, MTF, 4+ years HRT)

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2020.10.15 17:51 willowdawn93 How to tell our families??

I (cis f) and my partner have been dating for a little over a year and a half. My partner recently came out as transgender (mtf). It took me a little while to figure out how I feel about it but realized that I feel in love with the human not the gender so we are currently going strong! The problem is our families. Her family is very very very conservative (her father used to be a pasters, along with her grandfather), hate that we live together before marriage, and are generally very homophobic, transphobic, the whole nine yards (her father has a gay brother who he refers to as "nancy" and cut him out of his life). She told her sister, who is the most progressive in the family and she didn't take it very well. She needs time (which i do understand) but won't talk to my partner right now. My partner just got this beautiful tattoo of pink lilies and sent a picture to her mom (trying to get a feel to see how open her mom is) and she replied "it's really nice... but.... its not very 'manly' is it???" To which my partner responded by saying that she "isn't really that manly". Now her mom being being very distant. My partner really wants to tell them over Christmas break but I'm terrified about what that will do to her mental health, especially not having me close by to help if/when things go badly (ill be on the other side of the country unfortunately).
My family on the other hand are a lot more loving and supportive, they don't mind that we live together and really are rooting for us, but they are also conservative and have made some transphobic comments in the past. I know that some of my family will be completely okay with it and accepting, but my mom and sisters (one is a pastor, the other doesn't understand mental health at all and doesn't really understand the "grey areas") probably won't. I want to try and get a feel for how they will take this when I go home in December but I don't really know how to go about it. I don't want to cause issues with my family but I really really do love her and won't abandon her.
Tl/dr my partner came out as trans (mtf) and both of our families are very conservative, how do we tell them what's going on??
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2020.10.13 00:48 Inevitable-Low1005 28 m Depressed / off medication / relationship help please

This is a lot of stuff but.... I've been diagnosed with bi polar, major depression, i have trouble sleeping every night and I'm mtf transgender but still haven't been able to start my hrt since covid I've been kinda backed up on bills so starting hrt has been put on hold and is compounding my depression.
I think daily about suicide and not just once or twice its almost all day in different scenarios in my head.
I stopped taking my depression medication because it was making me angry and react badly.
My girlfriend of six years is just fed up because I'm always saying I don't get enough attention and I'm starting issues everyday with my attitude. Everything is making me upset. I was supposed to have time with her last night and her friend just shows up randomly and they spent the whole night together and put me off and by the end of the night she said she wasn't into anything bc of my attitude but she told me the week before we would have that night to ourselves since the kids were with my mother.
I don't know how to stop being miserable or feel like I'm loved or wanted. Most of the time I have an issue with not enough sex and I relate sex a lot with how much she loves me or how much attention I get and I don't understand this at all why I do.
We can watch movies hangout and everything but if she doesn't take initiative sexually I don't feel like she wants me.
She says she doesn't feel like shes in the mood all the time bc of my attitude and how I'm always miserable.
She knows I'm depressed bc I can't start transition and I've tried to kill myself before when I was 21 I put a gun to my head and pulled the trigger the ammo was so old it didn't fire and its the only reason I'm still here but I've been thinking of doing it again.
I don't want to die I love my family I have a 2yo son and I love my gf but I'm tired of being so depressed.
I spent the last year addicted to Cocain and away from my family trying to get sober my gf wouldn't let me back in that time she dated 2 other guys slept around and i just begged her to let me back home. I understand why she wouldn't i had to get clean but now I'm paranoid she's talking to guys. Its hard for me to trust again and I was the one who fucked bc i was doing drugs etc. I just never wanted her to kick me out I wanted help getting sober i felt abandoned. I missed the first year and a half of my sons life. It was a living hell I was almost raped 2 times while I was away, this was when I was dressed as a female im pretty passable even without hrt and i was living with several different people and places and one guy i used to work with tried to and another friend i knew from high-school tried to attack me sexually. i had to live in my truck for a while and live in motels that were fucking horrible.
I've been back home for 9 months and I've never wanted more to be with my family but my depression is eating me alive. I cant let go of everything I did and the fact that she was with 2 other guys while I was miserable breaking down everyday trying to get sober and begging to see my son because I missed him so much.
I overdosed 3 times before I quit and had a stroke the last time lucky it didn't do anything and was minor but it was scarry enough to get me to stop.
I just wish I could be happy I have my family back but I can't stop overthinking everything and always wanting attention. Idk what to do or whats wrong with me i just want help before I try and kill myself again.
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2020.10.12 19:28 Centipony SRS that preserves the frenulum? (GRS/GCS/vaginoplasty)

I'm a pre-op MTF trans woman in the USA who is circumcised and has no pleasurable sensation in the glans penis. Before the pandemic, I had intended to travel to Thailand for bottom surgery since doctors like Chettawut and Suporn claim to preserve nerve bundles from the frenulum, which is my only real area of sensitivity. For the sake of avoiding unexpected future closures or complications with international travel, I've begun consultations with doctors closer to me in North America. I had my heart set on setting a surgical date with McGinn, but during my consultation with her I got the distinct impression that penile inversion might leave me with less than ideal sensation due to my anatomical irregularity.
I've heard that Sidhbh Gallagher can create a g-spot from the frenulum, but communicating with her office seems to be extremely difficult. I've heard the same about Dr. Bluebond-Langner, but she's currently scheduling consultations over a year in advance. Those doctors aside aside, are there any North American surgeons who might be able to offer the possibility of promising results for someone like me?
Thanks for reading.
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2020.10.11 21:56 McRando9812 Weird situation, need advice

Hi, if this is in the wrong place please tell me.
I’m a straight man in the middle of a divorce. I’m also a devout and conservative Southern Baptist who by and large believes in traditional gender roles. After my wife kicked me out (not a cheater or beater, fyi) I began looking at dating sites online. Long story short, I began chatting with a beautiful young woman from NY who seemed too good to be true: socially and religiously conservative, wants to be a stay at home mom, and wants to homeschool. Pretty much the whole package. What I didn’t realize (my mistake, not this person’s fault at all) was that the young lady was an MtF transsexual. Once I realized that I gently ended contact. The whole thing really messed with my mind though and since then I’ve realized that a LOT of trans women have very traditional beliefs about marriage and home life and seem to hold those beliefs more strongly than most “traditional” cisgender women. She was absolutely perfect except for this one thing that was, until very recently, a huge sticking point that now confuses me. I know I’m not attracted to men and I’ve never seen a penis that I had a “reaction” to. That would be an issue for me in any relationship with a trans individual.
So my question is this: how can I reconcile my newfound attraction to certain trans women with what the Bible says about men and women and their role in creation? If there’s no way to do that, I’ll have to leave this side of me alone. But I don’t want to miss out on a great life with somebody either because of something because I didn’t earnestly question my beliefs.
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2020.10.11 21:02 IndividualOk557 his dad doesn’t like me because i’m trans?

Hi guys, girls, and nonbinary pals
so i’ve been talking to this Cis guy (we’ll call him G) for like 4 months and like everything been cool we hang out and go on dates. today i was supposed to go meet G’s parents and he asked if he could bring me over to their place and they said yes at first then he told them about me being trans. his mom was like completely fine with it and everything his dad on there hand didn’t like it or something?? idk he didn’t tell me anything other that his dad not cool w it? i mean for the most part it does bother me, but im still a little bummed out :T 
( im MTF she/her and we aren’t rlly dating we haven’t rlly talked about that)
G was rlly sweet about it told me we shouldn’t go because he doesn’t want me to be in that environment.
but um idk what to do in this situation? i would like advice please.
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2020.10.11 20:28 JaneyElizabeth Estrogenization of the Transgender Male Pubis Under HRT

I have been writing a lot on HRT and MPB on a site where some "cis" guys are either using estrogen or AA's or contemplating it, and there are always the same questions about "will my dick explode?" or is it history forever with penile atrophy or can a person recover? What I mention is from talking to you folks especially since the new study about scrotal application. I would love to hear about other folks' thoughts because at the same time, what I mention below is unheard of in the literature and many of you claim no such effects, which I believe. The experience seems highly variable. Cheers.
Gergely said:
As i understand the main reason behind it is the lack of erections. If not atrophy, then it's just the overall quality of your erections that may led you to believe it's smaller than it once was.
That's pretty close. When researchers measure in general, they used pulled length, and as far as I can tell, unless someone gets castrated, pulled length either doesn't change or barely changes.
Here's the stuff you might not know that @bridgeburn didn't address and his style was different. I loved his writing and his intellect and it inspired me, so no criticisms. I only point out where he and I might differ in experience or results. I put things in the third person or the passive so I am not referring to myself here but only generally but I am also not denying these things in my own situation or experience. I do spend many hours a week answering newbie hormonal questions on two different MtF sites so I have heard the full range of tales.
So although ultimate size does not change, the entire area of the pubis can become completely estrogenized (my invented word) and become more and more intersex in nature. Because of the profound skin healing properties of estrogen, cis-males who were circumcised may experience partial regrowth of the foreskin which resembles clitoral overhang or hood.
The entire area of the penis may become "wrinkly" and appear more and more lipstick or clitoris-like. The pubis itself may bulge, with the scrotum inverted and the fatty tissue on either side presenting more and more like labia majora.
What I refer to as a pseudo-mons with indentation might appear and the entire area including thighs, ***, etc, can become fattier and cellulite might be present since there is always exchange of the medication from movement and rubbing. By this point, orgasms experienced are fully female in nature and MtFs all know this and we know when it changes. The feeling reverts back to pre-pubescent excitation in which multiple orgasms are possible but not probable since the sex drive is at first all but gone and then when estrogen brings it back, it is entirely different and you just can't get into the same mindset or fixation. I rarely have interest in anything prurient any longer.
By this point, the intersex aspect can become profound, to the point that the entire region, this is hard to explain but anything you touch down there, it moves like the female equivalent.
The penis re-orientates to a downward position and for lack of a scientific term, can now only be manipulated by "diddling" and it may move inward and act "button-like." SRS at times can destroy nerve endings in the penis so in terms of enjoying sex, I think this is one reason why many MtFs especially non-binary might be less interested in SRS although I have seen no stats. Because so many people are coming into the cohort, SRS is still increasing greatly worldwide.
The reason why these unusual/unheard of effects are probably largely unknown is that until now, few put the patch or estrogel "down there" because it was "highly discouraged" by the companies and practitioners. But many MtFs have always used estrogen on the breasts and genital skin.
Scrotal application is roughly five times more efficient for hormonal meds and doesn't that almost make sense? But a study just came out so MtFs can now use just estrogel to meet estrogen and testosterone targets. Before it was too expensive. Extreme users too can use this route if they dare and save money on meds but starting out, it is very hard to do psychologically because of the ways cis-males are raised and socialized.
Depending on the meds used and if scrotal application is used, especially the patch, the penis may begin however to present smaller and smaller and thinner and thinner. I mean, if a guy is in the locker room or on a date and it looks like a 12 year-old penis soft, quoting your pulled length, well, you know, probably not going to impress.
What I was thinking might be of interest is trying to go through the progress from the beginning to the middle to the end where a person hits female targets in terms of what the penis can still do so extreme users might have some idea how close they can tip-toe to the edge in search of long, golden, luscious, carefree, windproof locks.
I don't understand @bridgeburn's purported prowess at the end, though because he was on a full-blown MtF HRT program and he said that he still could have penetrative relations. Maybe, but I doubt that he's doing any plowing. Insertion might continue along with some tumescence but people claim really varied experiences. I don't think that he was using a serm.
Maybe more overview than requested but you will find that I am often excessively thorough.
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2020.10.11 14:46 flurreeh Where is the best place to get to know people like myself?

So I'm 26 MtF (still in the very beginning) from north-west Germany. I hate dating apps and have big issues with asking people out. Because my friends are pretty much all either heterosexual and/or cis-gender, I really feel like I need to know some people like me. Where do I start? I can't really find any online community that suits me well and if I wanna find people like me, well, they're probably not using them either as they'd be different to me if they would.
Guess this should be the best place to ask about places to look for? Help is much appreciated. c:
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